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SUMMARY - Answers to parents' frequently asked questions about going to summer camp.

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Camp Friends

October 26th, 2010

I was recently asked to speak to a class about the importance of community in the way we work as a business. I was reminded that it is not just important to us, it is what we do.

About ten years ago we set out to answer three questions: what do we do, how do we do it, and what if we did it intentionally? The idea was not to decide what we wanted to do, but rather to try to figure out what has been happening here all along, and then decide how we can get on board. What we discovered was that the primary factor for why camp is so effective, the reason our campers come back, and the reason our staff fall in love with camp every summer, is very simple. Friends.

We are made to live life together. It is in our DNA. Put another way, we are made in God’s image and at the very center of who he is is relationship (the Trinity). So it is no surprise that placing career or accomplishments ahead of family and friends usually ends poorly.

In most places developing community, is means to an end, a by-product of what they are there to do. Schools want strong community to create a better learning environment. Businesses want strong community to create more effective sales teams. Even reality TV stars want community to avoid getting voted off the island. But camp is different. For us community is an end in itself, it is what we are here to do.

We also have a leg up over other groups. We live together, like families. In other words, we do not just spend some time together and then go back to our real lives at home. For a short period each summer camp is our home. This is why camp friends are different, closer, than any others. We are made to live life together, and at camp doing that is not a strategy; it is the end itself.

Adam Boyd

Single Gender Camping

February 11th, 2010

Not long ago I was having lunch at Merri-Mac with my friend George.  He had recently retired from 15 years as a camp director and he missed camp.  As we finished eating the girls cleared their tables and then the tribal leaders stood on their benches and began leading their tribe songs.  First Iroquois would cheer, and then Seminole would answer, finally Choctaw rallied in response.  George was stunned and he asked me what they were doing.  Who was leading this?  Was it a special day?  I said simply, “George, this is lunch.  After the tribe songs they will sing side by side, then the Princess Song, and finally the announcement song.”  I then explained that at dinner we would sing cabin and state songs, and at breakfast the next morning we would sing breakfast songs.  Of course there were also chapel songs, and Lakeside songs, and Final Campfire songs, but that was getting off subject.  I got the impression that George had never seen anything like this, and I knew exactly why.  George had directed a co-ed camp, and girls will not stand up and sing, at least not like they do at camp, with boys in the room.  I think that is sad, because you have never seen a person have more fun than when they sing with their friends.

Most people agree that boys and girls develop differently.  In general girls develop language more quickly while a boy’s develop in their visual/spatial abilities.  Other studies show that boys focus when under stress while girls tend to take less risk in stressful situations.   So it is no surprise that children consistently perform better in single-gender schools.  Settings focused on their particular strengths are simply going to be more effective.

Camp, however, is different.   We are not making our campers better students (though I suspect they are), we are making them happier, more adventurous people.  Our strength is that camp is both an intensely social (we live together!) and a low stress setting.  The result is a place where it is safe to try new things.  It is a place where the girls live together in their cabins as families, and like a family, it is a place where they can cheer for each others’ success and encourage each other when they fail.   This is why girls who attend single-gender camps are more likely to develop a healthy sense of adventure, make life-long friends and return year after year.

Adam Boyd

How To Choose a Camp

December 2nd, 2009

There are well over 5,000 summer camps in the United States.  There are traditional camps, sports camps, girls camps, boys camps, riding camps, academic camps, wilderness adventure camps, clown camps, surf camps, day camps, overnight camps…you get the idea.  So the question is not how to find a camp, but how to find the best camp, or better, how do I find the right camp for my child?   Here a few a few ideas that we found helpful when we sent our own children to camp.

  1. Involve your child in the decision.   A child who is adamant about not being at camp be slower to experience the best parts of camp.  A great counselors will eventually win over just about everyone, but campers with some degree of buy-in will be the happiest soonest.
  2. Make the final decision yours.  You need to be even more excited about the program than your camper.  If you are uncomfortable with a camp then keep looking.  My parents were camp directors so when they sent me to camp they chose two camps that they trusted.  They then handed me the brochures and let me decide.  It was a great mix of involving me while keeping control of the process.
  3. A lot of campers feel more comfortable going to camp with a friend.  This is fine; it may help with pre-camp jitters.  However, after the first several hours most children have made friends with every child in their cabin.  Simply put, camp is not school; we live together so close friendships form very quickly.  You should certainly consider where your child’s friends go to camp, but do not limit yourself to those camps alone.
  4. It’s all about the counselors!  Look hard at how the camp hires staff.  How many were former campers?  How many return each year?  How many are hired through international staffing services?   Ask about their grades, where they go to school, what interview questions they are asked.  If you choose the right camp your camper will be there summer after summer for many years and a great staff will become a wonderful part of their growing up.

We’ll try to add to this list over the next several weeks, but if you cannot wait then please call any time.  We love camp and would be happy to help you find the best fit for your camper.

Sincerely,

Adam and Ann

Camp Merri-Mac
1123 Montreat Road Suite A
Black Mountain, NC 28711
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828-669-8766

Camp Merri-Mac for Girls | 1123 Montreat Rd Ste A | Black Mountain, NC 28711 | 828-669-8766